Keep Your Fork to Use at Lake Chapala, Mexico

July 9, 2011

Here's a story a dear friend sent to me. I don't know the author. Perhaps you've seen it before:
"There was a young woman who had been diagnosed with a terminal illness and had been given three months to live. So as she was getting her things 'in order,' she contacted her Pastor and had him come to her house to discuss certain aspects of her final wishes. 

She told him which songs she wanted sung at the service, what scriptures she would like read, and what outfit she wanted to be buried in.

Everything was in order and the Pastor was preparing to leave when the young woman suddenly remembered something very important to her. 

"There's one more thing", she said excitedly.. 

"What's that?" came the Pastor's reply.

"This is very important," the young woman continued. "I want to be buried with a fork in my right hand.'"

The Pastor stood looking at the young woman, not knowing quite what to say. 

"That surprises you, doesn't it?" the young woman asked. 

" Well, to be honest, I'm puzzled by the request", said the Pastor.

The young woman explained: "My grandmother once told me this story, and from that time on I have always tried to pass along its message to those I love and those who are in need of encouragement.
In all my years of attending socials and dinners, I always remember that when the dishes of the main course were being cleared, someone would inevitably lean over and say, 'Keep your fork.' It was my favorite part because I knew that something better was coming…like velvety chocolate cake or deep-dish apple pie'. Something wonderful, and with substance!"

So, I just want people to see me there in that casket with a fork in my hand and I want them to wonder 'What's with the fork?' Then I want you to tell them : 'Keep your fork ..the best is yet to come.' 

The Pastor's eyes welled up with tears of joy as he hugged the young woman good-bye. He knew this would be one of the last times he would see her before her death. But he also knew that the young woman had a better grasp of heaven than he did. She had a better grasp of what heaven would be like than many people twice her age, with twice as much experience and knowledge. She KNEW that something better was coming.

At the funeral people were walking by the young woman's casket and they saw the cloak she was wearing and the fork placed in her right hand. Over and over, the Pastor heard the question, 'What's with the fork?' And over and over he smiled. 

During his message, the Pastor told the people of the conversation he had with the young woman shortly before she died. He also told them about the fork and about what it symbolized to her. He told the people how he could not stop thinking about the fork and told them that they probably would not be able to stop thinking about it either. 

He was correct. So the next time you reach down for your fork let it remind you, ever so gently, that the best is yet to come. Friends are a very rare jewel , indeed.They make you smile and encourage you to succeed Cherish the time you have,and the memories you share…. Being friends with someone is not an opportunity, but a sweet responsibility."

What does this story have to do wih Lake Chapala? If you don't live here yet quite a lot really. 
First I hope to become your friend if we're not already friends and I'll do my best to treat our friendship as a "Sweet Responsibility".
Second: Many of you and I are already friends and you want to live here, you're waiting to sell a home, waiting for the kids to get out of school, for retirement, or just not sure since you've not yet visited our slice of paradise.
The fork in the above story represents something better to come. I think Lake Chapala, Mexico is something better to come in your life. SO, if you think it may just be the thing you need to keep your fork for please "Keep the fork!"
The good life is waiting for you here at Lake Chapala, Mexico.
Want to know more. Send me your three most pressing questions about living here and I'll "fork over" the answers.
(I know, that was a terrible pun)
I promise my answers will be better than my pun. Send your questions to with the subject line "Fork Over" and I'll get your response right back to you.
All for now. Tu amigo,


  • Arlene Cooney

    Sid – what a beautiful story. It doesn’t surprise me that you would post such a lovely story. After the time Carlos and I spent with you in Lake Chapala I know that you are genuine in your words about friendship – you proved it by your actions and by spending all that time with us and helping us – we will always consider you a great friend and we were so fortunate to have met you!!

  • Sid Grosvenor

    Hi Arlene, Thanks for the kind words. When you’ve made a friend you’ve done a great thing. Not everyone wants to be friends and that’s OK too, but the vast majority of my clients do become good friends.

    Friends are something you just can;t have too many of.

    Siempre tu amigo, Sid P.S. Best to Carlos

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